I agree and this post is very much for me. I like the statement no one cares as long as it is affecting them directly.. Nice Read Sam.
"If something doesn’t affect you directly, you’re not likely to care for very long. People can be proud of you, tell you good job and give you a pat on the ass, but if we are looking for fulfilment and contentment in other people’s reactions to our achievements, we’re only setting ourselves up for disappointment."
Thanks mate. I've spent most of my life placing too much value in what others think of me. I still have work to do on that, but it's nice to be slowly letting go of that. I wish it were easier and wish everyone else could achieve the same thing so they could go about spending their energy on whatever makes them truly happy.
Validation is one of our natural human needs, but the most important form of validation is self validation and that's a work in progress.
Doing things for the praise and attention of others is often linked to not getting enough attention as children and we think if we just did this then our parents would notice us more.
Awareness is everything so you are on the right track to being an intrinsically motivated human in an extrinsically motivated society.
Yeah that's me all over. I juts don't even know where to start in terms of getting that validation from myself. I'll just keep on chipping away I reckon and see what presents itself.
May 23, 2023·edited May 23, 2023Liked by Sam Wilson
"I’ve not been true to myself and followed my heart." I was the same, and this quote by Apple Founder Steve Jobs has helped me make big decisions in life:
“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
"You if haven't found it yet, keep looking and don't settle. And is with all matters of the heart, you'll know when find it. And like any great relationship, it'll just get better and better as the years roll on."
I agree and this post is very much for me. I like the statement no one cares as long as it is affecting them directly.. Nice Read Sam.
"If something doesn’t affect you directly, you’re not likely to care for very long. People can be proud of you, tell you good job and give you a pat on the ass, but if we are looking for fulfilment and contentment in other people’s reactions to our achievements, we’re only setting ourselves up for disappointment."
Thanks mate. I've spent most of my life placing too much value in what others think of me. I still have work to do on that, but it's nice to be slowly letting go of that. I wish it were easier and wish everyone else could achieve the same thing so they could go about spending their energy on whatever makes them truly happy.
Validation is one of our natural human needs, but the most important form of validation is self validation and that's a work in progress.
Doing things for the praise and attention of others is often linked to not getting enough attention as children and we think if we just did this then our parents would notice us more.
Awareness is everything so you are on the right track to being an intrinsically motivated human in an extrinsically motivated society.
Yeah that's me all over. I juts don't even know where to start in terms of getting that validation from myself. I'll just keep on chipping away I reckon and see what presents itself.
Being driven by fear is exhausting. I much prefer being pulled towards something I truly want to do.
"I’ve not been true to myself and followed my heart." I was the same, and this quote by Apple Founder Steve Jobs has helped me make big decisions in life:
“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
https://youtu.be/ddSwedWWON4
Yeah that’s a ripper, you’ve showed me before. I should watch it every morning. Haha.
"You if haven't found it yet, keep looking and don't settle. And is with all matters of the heart, you'll know when find it. And like any great relationship, it'll just get better and better as the years roll on."