I think sometimes we are just too busy to ever feel just being and it's great awareness that you picked up on a state that wasn't necessarily an emotion. It sounds like what you're describing is what I would call just being. You're not happy, you're not sad, you just.
Yeah, I feel like it was a touch more negative than just being. Like it made me a little bit sad. Like, "ah shit, I haven't had a moment where I was really happy for a little while now". Maybe it's just because I've been going through so much over the last 17 months that this state of just being is a little foreign to me and it's one I avoided so desperately for so long.
I just want to be content and not feel like I always need to be doing something to feel that contentment. I'm getting there, slowly. It's just a bit of a journey.
haha yeah I think we need to view life like a journey rather than a destination. I would say lots of people have a goal "to be happy" but that would be labelling happiness as a destination rather than the emotion that it is.
We aren't going to feel good all the time and it's okay :)
Yeah, I think having the goal to be happy all the time is only going to lead to more unhappiness, because we will spend most of our time not having the thing we think we want. It's a trap.
It’s unrelenting, huh? Like it’s the best thing ever, period. But there is no break from it, and it’s usually hardest when you have the least energy for it.
Yeah, 100% and I’m not willing to do that. It comes before anything else. There’s no point in me trying to do all this work on myself if it’s not having a positive impact on my family.
Hi Sam,
What is your definition of happiness?
I think sometimes we are just too busy to ever feel just being and it's great awareness that you picked up on a state that wasn't necessarily an emotion. It sounds like what you're describing is what I would call just being. You're not happy, you're not sad, you just.
That's the million dollar question, huh?
Yeah, I feel like it was a touch more negative than just being. Like it made me a little bit sad. Like, "ah shit, I haven't had a moment where I was really happy for a little while now". Maybe it's just because I've been going through so much over the last 17 months that this state of just being is a little foreign to me and it's one I avoided so desperately for so long.
I just want to be content and not feel like I always need to be doing something to feel that contentment. I'm getting there, slowly. It's just a bit of a journey.
haha yeah I think we need to view life like a journey rather than a destination. I would say lots of people have a goal "to be happy" but that would be labelling happiness as a destination rather than the emotion that it is.
We aren't going to feel good all the time and it's okay :)
Yeah, I think having the goal to be happy all the time is only going to lead to more unhappiness, because we will spend most of our time not having the thing we think we want. It's a trap.
It’s didn’t really set in for me that “parenting is a fucking long haul” until my twins were 1.
It’s unrelenting, huh? Like it’s the best thing ever, period. But there is no break from it, and it’s usually hardest when you have the least energy for it.
Everything gets hard when energy is low
100%. But parenting is probably the only thing you can’t put off until later.
There are elements of parent people put off, but it just comes back to bite them later in life
Yeah, 100% and I’m not willing to do that. It comes before anything else. There’s no point in me trying to do all this work on myself if it’s not having a positive impact on my family.
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