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This is great, Sam, really good stuff. I feel it must be pretty cathartic to get all this out and to go back in time to analyse the things that make you you.

In some ways I find it pretty relatable in that I spent a lot of my childhood alone (only child) and my parents were super busy with their cafe. I'd spend my entire school holidays hanging out in the cafe being so bored, my parents would never take me friends house, have sleepovers, birthday parties were essentially family only; they didn't have the time to take me or even build that relationship with other parents.

Like you, I can't blame my parents for this, my dad being an off the boat Greek wanted to work hard to set me up in life, everything he didn't have. I owe him heaps but I sometimes wish that he had the time to kick the ball around with me rather than being at work or exhausted. I think it's probably worth me unpacking some of this...

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Sep 27, 2022Liked by Sam Wilson

You’re working through some deep stuff Sam. Power to you.

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Sep 27, 2022Liked by Sam Wilson

Thanks for sharing Sam. It's funny I used to be the drunk guy in a group of drunk guys. And while they don't overtly say anything these days. It's clear drinking less has been noticed positively.

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Sam Wilson

This was a great read Sam! I agree that Lost Connections is one of the best books I've read. I also relate to a lot of what you've said. The more I read the more I learn and the more I realise that as a society, emotional needs haven't been met during childhood. But it's not our parents fault, as you said, they parented based off what they learnt from their parents and their parents the same. We don't realise how much children learn and the impact of intergeneration trauma. I used to believe that I was nothing like my mother, but the more I read the more I realise that everything I have learnt is from my mother and it's not her fault, she was doing the best that she could. Awareness and learning is what will breaks the cycle. Unfortunately all this learning is optional and often the people who need it the most are the hardest to get to. I'd love to see this psychology become compulsory in school, the earlier we learn the more we will understand people and this alone will save a lot of hurt and conflict.

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Sep 28, 2022Liked by Sam Wilson

Loved this mate. I enjoy reading these, and definitely connect with you on a lot of them. I know what it's like to be your own harshest critic. The feeling of failure is a tough one to remove from oneself. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts and story buddy, very much appreciate you and them and hope you have a brilliant end to the week and a cracking weekend!

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