Mike Tyson might have said it best when he said "social media made you all too comfortable with disrespecting people and not being punched in the face for it"
Certainly not advocating for violence lol, but the mechanism for not having any consequence for your actions can lead to some pretty undesirable actions. It is nonetheless a squeaky wheel that doesn't need WD-40. We need to take it off, look at it, and figure out why these people are doing what they're doing.
I'm not going to seek anyone out, but maybe what it requires is that the next time we come across an undesirable opinion in person, we take the time to understand why that person holds the opinion, as opposed to shutting them down. People hold their opinions because of the sum of all of their experiences, to dismiss their opinion is to dismiss them as a person.
They might be wrong, but unless we can understand why that is, we'll never change their mind... and it's this process that can also help us learn. If we're always listening, we're giving ourselves more opportunities to see different ways of thinking.
Good ideas always win out and listening to bad ideas won't replace good ones.
I don't believe people are bad people entirely. There is a cause behind the way people are. I think people are very guilty of generalizing. "I got attacked by one dog so lets kill all dogs" type mentality. What they don't know is that the dog was more scared than they were, or that the dog had been flogged by it's owner so now the dog things every human they see is going to flog it too. I'd be scared as both the person and the dog. Both have understandable reasons to be afraid. I think they key is education and possibly more importantly, a willingness to learn. As I wrote, I think people who hold these strong yet incredibly lazy views have just been hurt in the past. That's why I'm sympathetic to them. They weren't born like this, something they've experienced has altered their view. What they're doing though is trying to transfer that hurt onto someone else in an attempt to make themselves feel better about themselves. The social media aspect of it provides reinforcement and vindicated the way they feel.
I think you're bang on though, we need to be able to understand what's causing such a strong view to be held in the first place then try to educate from there. If you find water pooling somewhere in your house, you don't just start chopping your house to bits from the pool of water backwards, you follow it backwards carefully until you find the source and fix it from there.
I fuckin' love Mike Tyson. I don't think he gets enough credit for how far he's come as a person and how wise he actually is. He's done a lot of work on himself.
I've learned from dealing with trolls during my rugby career and the dock that most trolls/keyboard warriors are miserable and unhappy with how their lives are panning out. Then they take their anger out on someone online because it's easy and they face no retaliation.
I agree. We can see and understand that. It’s the people who let it get to them I worry about. That and the gang mentality. People get braver in greater numbers. Next thing you know they’re violent protestors etc.
I have a mate who teases me about being "too rigid" and stuck in a routine. But I don't think he understands that having a routine actually sets me free. By being on autopilot and in a routine for most of the day frees my brain up for the rest of it to be creative and problem solve.
“Isn’t it boring?” What’s not boring is getting home at 3pm and being able to do whatever the fuck I want for 6 hours because my boring routine looks after the rest of the crap.
Mike Tyson might have said it best when he said "social media made you all too comfortable with disrespecting people and not being punched in the face for it"
Certainly not advocating for violence lol, but the mechanism for not having any consequence for your actions can lead to some pretty undesirable actions. It is nonetheless a squeaky wheel that doesn't need WD-40. We need to take it off, look at it, and figure out why these people are doing what they're doing.
I'm not going to seek anyone out, but maybe what it requires is that the next time we come across an undesirable opinion in person, we take the time to understand why that person holds the opinion, as opposed to shutting them down. People hold their opinions because of the sum of all of their experiences, to dismiss their opinion is to dismiss them as a person.
They might be wrong, but unless we can understand why that is, we'll never change their mind... and it's this process that can also help us learn. If we're always listening, we're giving ourselves more opportunities to see different ways of thinking.
Good ideas always win out and listening to bad ideas won't replace good ones.
Mate, this is exactly what I'm getting at!
I don't believe people are bad people entirely. There is a cause behind the way people are. I think people are very guilty of generalizing. "I got attacked by one dog so lets kill all dogs" type mentality. What they don't know is that the dog was more scared than they were, or that the dog had been flogged by it's owner so now the dog things every human they see is going to flog it too. I'd be scared as both the person and the dog. Both have understandable reasons to be afraid. I think they key is education and possibly more importantly, a willingness to learn. As I wrote, I think people who hold these strong yet incredibly lazy views have just been hurt in the past. That's why I'm sympathetic to them. They weren't born like this, something they've experienced has altered their view. What they're doing though is trying to transfer that hurt onto someone else in an attempt to make themselves feel better about themselves. The social media aspect of it provides reinforcement and vindicated the way they feel.
I think you're bang on though, we need to be able to understand what's causing such a strong view to be held in the first place then try to educate from there. If you find water pooling somewhere in your house, you don't just start chopping your house to bits from the pool of water backwards, you follow it backwards carefully until you find the source and fix it from there.
I fuckin' love Mike Tyson. I don't think he gets enough credit for how far he's come as a person and how wise he actually is. He's done a lot of work on himself.
I've learned from dealing with trolls during my rugby career and the dock that most trolls/keyboard warriors are miserable and unhappy with how their lives are panning out. Then they take their anger out on someone online because it's easy and they face no retaliation.
I agree. We can see and understand that. It’s the people who let it get to them I worry about. That and the gang mentality. People get braver in greater numbers. Next thing you know they’re violent protestors etc.
I have a mate who teases me about being "too rigid" and stuck in a routine. But I don't think he understands that having a routine actually sets me free. By being on autopilot and in a routine for most of the day frees my brain up for the rest of it to be creative and problem solve.
“Isn’t it boring?” What’s not boring is getting home at 3pm and being able to do whatever the fuck I want for 6 hours because my boring routine looks after the rest of the crap.
Brilliant mate. Thanks for sharing as always 🤙
Thanks Benny! Appreciate ya, as always.