I think the panic attack is a sign you’ve reached your limit, and something that’s no longer a top priority is draining your energy that you need for your top priorities. I was a bit down on myself for giving away ruby, but she’s still having a great life, and sometimes I reflect that my wife and I shouldn’t have got her. But we didn’t have kids at the time, and now I go easy on myself because “things change”. Priorities change, and that’s ok.
Yeah, I’m open to rehoming him if it’s what’s best for everyone. Hopefully this medication starts to kick in properly this week and this fix stops him getting out and I now longer have to walk around with the worry of him jumping the fence in the back of my mind. If he goes a couple days without getting out I’ll feel so much better. Just been hard because we’ve had so much rain. They’re messing up the yard. Messing up inside when they’re inside. But they just want to play and I don’t have anything for them.
I couldn’t look after a dog like that. In fact we gave away our Aussie Bulldog to a cousin after we had kids, and to read Pando is jumping off huge balconies is unbelievable and a sign you just got some bad luck with his separation anxiety. Great read mate and well done on taking the leap to paid. The hard work starts now that you have customers lol
It’s bloody hard, mate. For some, it would seem a bit dramatic to post in such depth about a dog. But this is how significantly it’s getting to me and I think it’s just the icing on the cake when you consider all the other stressors I have going on at the moment. It’s just the last fucking thing that I need.
They get fed at the same time every day. I have googled foods that are good for dogs with anxiety and introduced them into their diets, even though it’s more expensive.
I don’t exercise him as much as I should, but even when I do, it doesn’t matter. I can take him to the beach for an hour and he runs around like mad. Comes home, Sleeps for 20 minutes, and jumps the fence straight away.
Same deal with bones. I give him a big marrow bone, the other one will obsess over his for weeks, Pando eats the meat off it then he doesn’t want to know about it.
A perimeter collar is possibly the last remaining solution. I just didn’t want to outlay that kind of money if I could avoid it. Ironically, I’ve already spent much more than what those systems cost on the many other failed control measures.
Haha, the good thing about getting that close to absolutely losing it is that I can at least start to familiarise myself with the feeling and the triggers. I’ve been able to prevent a complete meltdown thus far. So yeah, like all things it SHOULD get easier with practice. The reason I’m struggling with it is that I’ve been so good at not letting things get me to this point for all of my life, but I’m starting to think maybe I was just internalising. I dunno exactly what the solution is and it’s difficult to practice without getting yourself into these situations, which is not something I want to do intentionally, haha.
Bugger mate, sounds like a frustrating situation. A dog lover myself, I can understand the stress.
I’m not sure I can offer any solutions without knowing the dog lol but there is one somewhere. I’ll just write some thoughts and apologies if you covered it above, I’m pretty sure I read it lol I promise.
Is the dog fed at a certain time? Should this be changed?
Is the dog exercised in the morning? Should it be to tire it out?
Have you given them bones?
Perimeter collar?
Fully enclosed dog runs can be pretty deluxe
What I can say is that you’re not a psychopath, it sounds like your just stressed. Still sucks, but don’t make it worse by catastrophising… easier said than done lol but it comes with practice?
Something that helps me is knowing that all emotions are temporary…
I get that frustration build up at 3am when I expected to sleep and my babies aren’t going to sleep lol, but as soon as I recognise the emotion is temporary and shift my expectations to no sleep, I find that I calm down pretty quick.
The ability to slow down in a heightened emotional state and adjust my mindset came with practice and I’m still learning, but it works…. Even if I have to drop and do push-ups before picking my girls up lol
I think the panic attack is a sign you’ve reached your limit, and something that’s no longer a top priority is draining your energy that you need for your top priorities. I was a bit down on myself for giving away ruby, but she’s still having a great life, and sometimes I reflect that my wife and I shouldn’t have got her. But we didn’t have kids at the time, and now I go easy on myself because “things change”. Priorities change, and that’s ok.
Yeah, I’m open to rehoming him if it’s what’s best for everyone. Hopefully this medication starts to kick in properly this week and this fix stops him getting out and I now longer have to walk around with the worry of him jumping the fence in the back of my mind. If he goes a couple days without getting out I’ll feel so much better. Just been hard because we’ve had so much rain. They’re messing up the yard. Messing up inside when they’re inside. But they just want to play and I don’t have anything for them.
I couldn’t look after a dog like that. In fact we gave away our Aussie Bulldog to a cousin after we had kids, and to read Pando is jumping off huge balconies is unbelievable and a sign you just got some bad luck with his separation anxiety. Great read mate and well done on taking the leap to paid. The hard work starts now that you have customers lol
It’s bloody hard, mate. For some, it would seem a bit dramatic to post in such depth about a dog. But this is how significantly it’s getting to me and I think it’s just the icing on the cake when you consider all the other stressors I have going on at the moment. It’s just the last fucking thing that I need.
They get fed at the same time every day. I have googled foods that are good for dogs with anxiety and introduced them into their diets, even though it’s more expensive.
I don’t exercise him as much as I should, but even when I do, it doesn’t matter. I can take him to the beach for an hour and he runs around like mad. Comes home, Sleeps for 20 minutes, and jumps the fence straight away.
Same deal with bones. I give him a big marrow bone, the other one will obsess over his for weeks, Pando eats the meat off it then he doesn’t want to know about it.
A perimeter collar is possibly the last remaining solution. I just didn’t want to outlay that kind of money if I could avoid it. Ironically, I’ve already spent much more than what those systems cost on the many other failed control measures.
Haha, the good thing about getting that close to absolutely losing it is that I can at least start to familiarise myself with the feeling and the triggers. I’ve been able to prevent a complete meltdown thus far. So yeah, like all things it SHOULD get easier with practice. The reason I’m struggling with it is that I’ve been so good at not letting things get me to this point for all of my life, but I’m starting to think maybe I was just internalising. I dunno exactly what the solution is and it’s difficult to practice without getting yourself into these situations, which is not something I want to do intentionally, haha.
Might have to give the push-ups a crack.
Bugger mate, sounds like a frustrating situation. A dog lover myself, I can understand the stress.
I’m not sure I can offer any solutions without knowing the dog lol but there is one somewhere. I’ll just write some thoughts and apologies if you covered it above, I’m pretty sure I read it lol I promise.
Is the dog fed at a certain time? Should this be changed?
Is the dog exercised in the morning? Should it be to tire it out?
Have you given them bones?
Perimeter collar?
Fully enclosed dog runs can be pretty deluxe
What I can say is that you’re not a psychopath, it sounds like your just stressed. Still sucks, but don’t make it worse by catastrophising… easier said than done lol but it comes with practice?
Something that helps me is knowing that all emotions are temporary…
I get that frustration build up at 3am when I expected to sleep and my babies aren’t going to sleep lol, but as soon as I recognise the emotion is temporary and shift my expectations to no sleep, I find that I calm down pretty quick.
The ability to slow down in a heightened emotional state and adjust my mindset came with practice and I’m still learning, but it works…. Even if I have to drop and do push-ups before picking my girls up lol