I’ve gotta disagree mate. Canberra is a great spot to raise a family, and read a study recently that showed loneliness is bad for your health as smoking.
Therefore it’s better to be in an average place with your friends, than alone in paradise
Don't get me wrong, I love Canberra, I wasn't in a hurry to get out of there. The decision to move was multi-faceted. We always planned on ending up on a property somewhere down here but the opportunity came a lot sooner than we anticipated and we thought if we don't do it now we mightn't get the chance. We liked the idea of Sonny growing up somewhere a little less chaotic with plenty of opportunity to grow up outdoors. My new job here is less demanding which allows for a little more freedom and my Mrs working from home also meant we could spend more together as a unit. . For the most part, it's been the best thing we've ever done. I have family here and some friends. There is community here, I just need to prioritise getting amongst it. The opportunity to do so will come from being organised and settled into a routine which is a place we're getting to. It's just different to what I'm used to and different can be challenging to navigate at times, but I know my trajectory is good. Just gotta trust it, flow with it, not against it. What will be will be.
Ahhh the good old happiness trap (Russ Harris). Once we have the house we will be happy, once we have the car we will be happy, once we get that new phone or swimming pool we'll be happy. Retailers make a lot of money from this (online shopping) but it doesn't feel how we think it will feel or if we do get that excitement it doesn't last.
I remember a lecture in the science of well-being course where Laurie spoke about this (to Yale students) and she said, when you get your letter of offer into Yale you're pretty excited but you don't wake up every day saying "I'm a Yale student!" (excited/happy tone).
Well done on navigating through these big adjustments :). It's great your partner is enjoying being back at work and that you found a child care option that works for you.
Yep. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for my house. I'm grateful for the security it provides. Knowing no none can kick us out at the end of a lease. But It's nothing more than a bunker filled with meaningless shit. Some of which I enjoy to have. But ultimately. none of that is ever going to make me feel anything significant.
It's the same as a pay rise, it's proven that a pay rise only makes people happier for three months. And that once you hit a certain annual income, no amount of money will add to your happiness from that point. If anything, it adds to stress. Wish I'd had this realisation sooner, but grateful I've had it at all.
Thanks! It's been bloody perfect. I was skeptical at first but it couldn't be better.
Perhaps working “fucking hard” on being vulnerable is the problem?
I’ve gotta disagree mate. Canberra is a great spot to raise a family, and read a study recently that showed loneliness is bad for your health as smoking.
Therefore it’s better to be in an average place with your friends, than alone in paradise
Don't get me wrong, I love Canberra, I wasn't in a hurry to get out of there. The decision to move was multi-faceted. We always planned on ending up on a property somewhere down here but the opportunity came a lot sooner than we anticipated and we thought if we don't do it now we mightn't get the chance. We liked the idea of Sonny growing up somewhere a little less chaotic with plenty of opportunity to grow up outdoors. My new job here is less demanding which allows for a little more freedom and my Mrs working from home also meant we could spend more together as a unit. . For the most part, it's been the best thing we've ever done. I have family here and some friends. There is community here, I just need to prioritise getting amongst it. The opportunity to do so will come from being organised and settled into a routine which is a place we're getting to. It's just different to what I'm used to and different can be challenging to navigate at times, but I know my trajectory is good. Just gotta trust it, flow with it, not against it. What will be will be.
Ahhh the good old happiness trap (Russ Harris). Once we have the house we will be happy, once we have the car we will be happy, once we get that new phone or swimming pool we'll be happy. Retailers make a lot of money from this (online shopping) but it doesn't feel how we think it will feel or if we do get that excitement it doesn't last.
I remember a lecture in the science of well-being course where Laurie spoke about this (to Yale students) and she said, when you get your letter of offer into Yale you're pretty excited but you don't wake up every day saying "I'm a Yale student!" (excited/happy tone).
Well done on navigating through these big adjustments :). It's great your partner is enjoying being back at work and that you found a child care option that works for you.
Yep. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for my house. I'm grateful for the security it provides. Knowing no none can kick us out at the end of a lease. But It's nothing more than a bunker filled with meaningless shit. Some of which I enjoy to have. But ultimately. none of that is ever going to make me feel anything significant.
It's the same as a pay rise, it's proven that a pay rise only makes people happier for three months. And that once you hit a certain annual income, no amount of money will add to your happiness from that point. If anything, it adds to stress. Wish I'd had this realisation sooner, but grateful I've had it at all.
Thanks! It's been bloody perfect. I was skeptical at first but it couldn't be better.