Ahhh the good old happiness trap (Russ Harris). Once we have the house we will be happy, once we have the car we will be happy, once we get that new phone or swimming pool we'll be happy. Retailers make a lot of money from this (online shopping) but it doesn't feel how we think it will feel or if we do get that excitement it doesn't last.
I remember a lecture in the science of well-being course where Laurie spoke about this (to Yale students) and she said, when you get your letter of offer into Yale you're pretty excited but you don't wake up every day saying "I'm a Yale student!" (excited/happy tone).
Well done on navigating through these big adjustments :). It's great your partner is enjoying being back at work and that you found a child care option that works for you.
Perhaps working “fucking hard” on being vulnerable is the problem?
Ahhh the good old happiness trap (Russ Harris). Once we have the house we will be happy, once we have the car we will be happy, once we get that new phone or swimming pool we'll be happy. Retailers make a lot of money from this (online shopping) but it doesn't feel how we think it will feel or if we do get that excitement it doesn't last.
I remember a lecture in the science of well-being course where Laurie spoke about this (to Yale students) and she said, when you get your letter of offer into Yale you're pretty excited but you don't wake up every day saying "I'm a Yale student!" (excited/happy tone).
Well done on navigating through these big adjustments :). It's great your partner is enjoying being back at work and that you found a child care option that works for you.