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“Achieving goals was never going to make me feel good about myself. Houses, jobs, running achievements, weight loss, none of them would ever make me feel better about myself. They would only help me cover up how I felt about myself. “

This hit me to the core Sam. I have appreciated your honesty over the years because the very things you’re showing up to work through are similar to the very things I am needing to work through too. Thank you for your example. 👊

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It’s a privilege to be of service, Timmy.

A heavy lesson to learn this one, but the weight is relative to its impact. Very grateful to have figured it out.

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I feel this Tim.

When I got told I landed an Olympics role, I cried, not because I was happy but because I was good enough to be picked.

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Love this article, lots to think about

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Thanks heaps, Courtney!

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I reckon I am going to need one of those daily calendars with an inspiring quote on each day filled with your thoughts on life!!

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I'd buy that!

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Haha, shit. That's a lot of pressure. I'd be no chance of remembering 5 off the top of my head let alone 365. It'd take some reading. You can start with this one my dear old uncle always tells me...

If ya don't eat, ya don't shit... If ya don't shit, ya die!

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He actually uses less words to say it but after i typed it the way he says it it could've been difficult to interpret.

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What's a stereotypical road worker?

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Thanks for asking this, Clare.

It's actually made me realise that my fear was based solely on my own assumptions and not the view of the broader public. My fears of what others think were fueled by my own insecurities and dismissal or generalising of people who worked in a certain industry and that is wrong.

Thanks for your part in helping me have this realisation!

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Glad I could help :)

There was a lot in this blog but I just couldn't stop wondering what the traits of a stereotypical road worker was.

Where do you think your assumptions and views came from?

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Just growing up in middle class Australia, I guess. I thought we had a reputation for being lazy because people make jokes about how long roadworks take and that whenever they drive by nobody is doing anything.

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Did working in this role change your assumption about what other people thought?

It's interesting how we view other professions. Generally Lawyers and Doctors are the most respected and are known as the big money makers. However, all jobs are valuable and contribute to the running of society.

Imagine if nobody wanted to work on the roads? We wouldn't be able to get safely from A to B, our cars would probably need repairs more often too.

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It definitely did, it also opened my eyes to the fact that there’s lots of professions out there that would be far more nuanced and difficult than most people would give credit for. A lesson not to judge something based solely on optics.

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Have you seen The Nugget?

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I have not

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It's vintage Eric Bana, Mick Molloy and Dave O'Neill. Strongly recommend.

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I paid my home off and felt nothing

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PS: I feel better driving home after every big R4R then I did paying off my home

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I heard a bloke on a podcast say "purpose over prosperity" this morning and it hit me like a tonne of bricks.

Sometimes those achievements can actually be deflating because we don't get the feeling we thought we would.

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"I’m starting to realise that if I focus on my relationship with myself, and if I work on how I feel most of the time, rather than constantly working towards some big fucking shiny thing that doesn’t make me happy, I will make better choices organically"

- well put mate. And I think people signing up for long races/runs applies to this

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Guilty!

That said, I’ve run 11 or 12 Mara’s and only two were at events.

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