Congratulations Sam and Mrs Sam and welcome to the 'hood. I love the way you write, open and honest and as if I'm in the room. Enjoying reading through past posts and looking forward to connnecting on w4R!
Thanks mate! Been great so far. I think I got lucky. He’s a ripper. That said, he’s a different kid each day and learning to adjust each day very quickly!
It's comforting to hear your perspective on the 'fear of suicide'. It's almost like the ultimate fear of having no control isn't it? Because 'a man's final freedom is his ability to respond how he wishes'. So, If we lose our rational thinking fully, it's the giving up of our last freedom.
In saying that though, we have the ability to respond as well as having the ability to prepare. Things like writing, exercise, and positive habits all increase that rational voice, but they also influence the irrational voice too. It's the whole premise of training right? when we're training, we're thinking about the actions and what we're doing so that when fight or flight kicks in, our habits takeover. Same thing goes here in my opinion.
Maybe it's like my rational brain is preparing my irrational brain so that I can learn to trust it. It's also important to remember that 99.988% of people don't commit suicide every year, so there's a big head start. It's a devastating outcome and it's a leading killer, and that speaks as much to the tragic nature of it as well as how lucky we are in this country to not die from other things.
It's interesting you talk about "knowing it's going to get tough". This is similar to mantra I have when life throws curveballs "Things might get tough, but i'll be ready". It was a mantra I recited when running my first marathon... Things might get tough, but you'll be ready. Your son could also be a legend though... still better to be ready and not need it.
As always mate, I love your reads and found the steeden analogy hilarious. There are certainly times where you just think to yourself "what the fuck do you want?" lol
Keep writing as much as you want, mate. It helps me and if it's helping you, bloody brilliant.
Thanks as always for your kind words and encouragement. It truly does keep me motivated.
I think fear is good in a lot of cases, particularly this one. We fear things that we don't want to happen. The more realistic they are the more we fear them, usually.
I like the training analogy. It's why fighters do their repetitions. When you don't have time to think about the guy trying to knock you out you rely on your instinct and it's better to have a trained instinct.
It's like the saying "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
Congratulations Sam and Mrs Sam and welcome to the 'hood. I love the way you write, open and honest and as if I'm in the room. Enjoying reading through past posts and looking forward to connnecting on w4R!
Thanks so much Charley
Congrats mate! Welcome to Dad life and like sobriety, you just gotta take it one day at a time. This road is looonnnnggggg
Thanks mate! Been great so far. I think I got lucky. He’s a ripper. That said, he’s a different kid each day and learning to adjust each day very quickly!
Congrats Sam. Great perspective on it all. Good luck.
Congratulations Sam, and what a great read. Thank you for sharing it all.
Thanks mate.
Love ya buddy 🤙
Cheers Legend, you too!
It's comforting to hear your perspective on the 'fear of suicide'. It's almost like the ultimate fear of having no control isn't it? Because 'a man's final freedom is his ability to respond how he wishes'. So, If we lose our rational thinking fully, it's the giving up of our last freedom.
In saying that though, we have the ability to respond as well as having the ability to prepare. Things like writing, exercise, and positive habits all increase that rational voice, but they also influence the irrational voice too. It's the whole premise of training right? when we're training, we're thinking about the actions and what we're doing so that when fight or flight kicks in, our habits takeover. Same thing goes here in my opinion.
Maybe it's like my rational brain is preparing my irrational brain so that I can learn to trust it. It's also important to remember that 99.988% of people don't commit suicide every year, so there's a big head start. It's a devastating outcome and it's a leading killer, and that speaks as much to the tragic nature of it as well as how lucky we are in this country to not die from other things.
It's interesting you talk about "knowing it's going to get tough". This is similar to mantra I have when life throws curveballs "Things might get tough, but i'll be ready". It was a mantra I recited when running my first marathon... Things might get tough, but you'll be ready. Your son could also be a legend though... still better to be ready and not need it.
As always mate, I love your reads and found the steeden analogy hilarious. There are certainly times where you just think to yourself "what the fuck do you want?" lol
Keep writing as much as you want, mate. It helps me and if it's helping you, bloody brilliant.
Thanks as always for your kind words and encouragement. It truly does keep me motivated.
I think fear is good in a lot of cases, particularly this one. We fear things that we don't want to happen. The more realistic they are the more we fear them, usually.
I like the training analogy. It's why fighters do their repetitions. When you don't have time to think about the guy trying to knock you out you rely on your instinct and it's better to have a trained instinct.
It's like the saying "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
Congratulations on your new role in life! I really enjoy reading your blog and appreciate your honesty.
Thanks so much!