I'm not going to provide any advice other than the advice you've already given yourself, it all winds up okay. Ultimately, he's half you and half your partner so you guys will know what's best for the little fella and it already sounds like you're nailing it.
The fear thing is an interesting one. I feel it too, and I arrive at the same conclusion; it's there because of what you don't want because if it did happen, it'd be terrible. It's such a strange thought to fear doing something you don't want to do... I'm not going to try and diagnose it yet but you're not alone with this one, mate... at least we can share in the frustration lol.
As I stare down the double-barrel shotgun of the twins arriving, my attention is shifting towards how I'm going to keep a routine going, and I think I'm going to try your strategy of keeping the start of the day the same.
Thanks mate! Yeah there's a fair bit of trial and error going on at the moment. One thing I have noticed though is that giving up genuinely just isn't an option with kids. If I've tried everything I can think of and nothing has worked, I just try them all again!
The fear thing is weird hey. Like we drive around without the constant fear of being involved in a fatal crash. I'm sure it's somewhat natural... and common, right? Breeny? It's normal right?
Oh man, that's gunna be a lot! You guys must be getting close, close? Young bloke isn't real old either! Gunna be a madhouse in a couple years! I'd be really interested to see how go with it. My psychologist said to me once, 'what was the worst things that's ever happened to you after going to work on 'not enough sleep?'" Nothing significant happened. haha. Being tired sucks, but for me being out of my routine is way worse and my routine is what will fix my fatigue.
Being a first time mum myself with a 3 week old i can totally relate to so much of this. I was sitting there at 3am this morning reading this, trying to settle my little man who had been unsettled for hours, trying to keep my eyes open while just hoping the crying would just stop. All I can do is keep telling myself that this stage won't last forever.
Oh wow! Congrats! They must almost share a birthday!
I've been so bloody lucky so far. I know he could take a turn at any point but he hasn't had a bad night yet! I'm sure there will come a stage that my young fella battles through while yours is cruising.
There's kinda no other option hey, like ya just gotta do it. It can be so bloody distressing, they can cause you so much grief, but you still just stare at them and love them unconditionally,
I’m learning getting worked up about almost anything is counter productive. I guess it comes back to that thought processing and a nipping it in the bud before it gets to that point.
I think a solid, healthy routine would be if it just about anyone. Like I can’t see how it doesn’t.
Good read mate. I think we all have certain fears. The rolling over in bed always scares me.
Cheers mate. I’m just so cumbersome. I always break shit hahaZ
Heartwarming one, mate.
I'm not going to provide any advice other than the advice you've already given yourself, it all winds up okay. Ultimately, he's half you and half your partner so you guys will know what's best for the little fella and it already sounds like you're nailing it.
The fear thing is an interesting one. I feel it too, and I arrive at the same conclusion; it's there because of what you don't want because if it did happen, it'd be terrible. It's such a strange thought to fear doing something you don't want to do... I'm not going to try and diagnose it yet but you're not alone with this one, mate... at least we can share in the frustration lol.
As I stare down the double-barrel shotgun of the twins arriving, my attention is shifting towards how I'm going to keep a routine going, and I think I'm going to try your strategy of keeping the start of the day the same.
Thanks mate! Yeah there's a fair bit of trial and error going on at the moment. One thing I have noticed though is that giving up genuinely just isn't an option with kids. If I've tried everything I can think of and nothing has worked, I just try them all again!
The fear thing is weird hey. Like we drive around without the constant fear of being involved in a fatal crash. I'm sure it's somewhat natural... and common, right? Breeny? It's normal right?
Oh man, that's gunna be a lot! You guys must be getting close, close? Young bloke isn't real old either! Gunna be a madhouse in a couple years! I'd be really interested to see how go with it. My psychologist said to me once, 'what was the worst things that's ever happened to you after going to work on 'not enough sleep?'" Nothing significant happened. haha. Being tired sucks, but for me being out of my routine is way worse and my routine is what will fix my fatigue.
Haha it's common enough!
Being a first time mum myself with a 3 week old i can totally relate to so much of this. I was sitting there at 3am this morning reading this, trying to settle my little man who had been unsettled for hours, trying to keep my eyes open while just hoping the crying would just stop. All I can do is keep telling myself that this stage won't last forever.
We got this !
Oh wow! Congrats! They must almost share a birthday!
I've been so bloody lucky so far. I know he could take a turn at any point but he hasn't had a bad night yet! I'm sure there will come a stage that my young fella battles through while yours is cruising.
There's kinda no other option hey, like ya just gotta do it. It can be so bloody distressing, they can cause you so much grief, but you still just stare at them and love them unconditionally,
"Getting myself all worked up about not getting enough sleep and ultimately making things worse." - the same applies to parenting.
Getting worked up about not doing an amazing job doesn't help and is just a waste of energy.
PS: My kids love routine, and the happier I am in mine, they happier and more content they seem to be in theirs.
I’m learning getting worked up about almost anything is counter productive. I guess it comes back to that thought processing and a nipping it in the bud before it gets to that point.
I think a solid, healthy routine would be if it just about anyone. Like I can’t see how it doesn’t.